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You deserve to live a liberated and holistic life; rich with a balance of security, meaningful work, authenticity, fulfilling relationships, excitement, engaging hobbies, joy, plenty of fun times, love, a healthy lifestyle and all of your needs met! You also deserve to live in a world where everyone has that, where oppression is a thing of the past, and where there is peace, sustainability and the future isn't under threat!
I want to share a couple of quotes about the Ladakhi people, to give a sense of what is possible for humans outside of this soul-destroying civilisation that we find ourselves in. These are from Helena Norberg-Hodge, an anthropologist who studied the Ladakhis in the Himalayas, before the area was opened to tourism and they began interacting regularly with Westerners.
"The Ladakhis possess an irrepressible joie de vivre. Their sense of joy seems so firmly anchored within them that circumstances cannot shake it loose. You cannot spend any time at all in Ladakh without being won over by the contagious laughter."
"Even during the harvest season, when the work lasts long hours, it is done at a relaxed pace that allows an eighty-year-old as well as a young child to join in and help. People work hard, but at their own rate, accompanied by laughter and song. The distinction between work and play is not rigidly defined.
Remarkably, Ladahkis only work, really work, for four months of the year [the short Himalayan growing season]. In the eight winter months, they must cook, feed the animals, and carry water, but work is minimal. Most of the winter is spent at festivals and parties. Even during summer, hardly a week passes without a major festival or celebration of one sort or another, while in winter the celebration is almost nonstop."
I'm not suggesting we go back to a super low-tech lifestyle, however knowing that such degrees of joy, celebration, peace, health, belonging and more, are possible for humans under different systems, clarifies the potential of human fulfilment. That sense of potential makes it worth it to believe that it's possible that we can change the system - towards one which prioritises meeting human and ecological needs.
Believing it's possible to change the world, means I've had to work hard to find the ways to actually make it possible. Often trying things and failing, only to learn from my mistakes and try again with better strategy. I've been doing that for so long now that my ideas seem to have become quite uniquely useful. My intention is to share all that I've learned in an attempt to help people to change their own lives, and change the world. Anything is possible with the right strategies.
Chances are you've tried making big changes in the past, whether in your own life, or in the world, and you haven't been able to make it work. Activism, healing and radical enterprise are all really tricky and complicated endeavours. If you don't have the right strategies, tools and support you need, it's pretty understandable when it doesn't work out. I believe that most of the ideas and tools that are out there in the personal growth world and the activist world are only half solutions. They work in some ways but not others.
I believe that everything is like that. That there aren't any simple answers. Any given strategy or tool only works in certain contexts but not others, in certain ways but not in others. We need to mix and match all of the solutions in the right combination to make things work. That's why I've become really interested in learning from the healing world, the spiritual world and the business world, and bringing all of that to activism. As well as bringing radical ethics, understandings and practices to healing, spirituality and business.
We tend to take on the ideas of whatever subculture we're a part of, but then close our minds to whatever that ideology says is wrong. I did that for years with the activist/anarchist subculture's ideas and it turned out to be a massive mistake. The more we can take the good parts of everything and discard the bad parts of everything, the better. If any one ideology that was out there was completely right about everything, then everyone would think it, and that's obviously not the case. Nor is any single ideology completely wrong about everything otherwise no one would believe in it.
Regardless, it's really normal to engage in groupthink based thinking. It's what we've evolved to do, and it's also what we've been socialised to do. But if we want to actually get somewhere with changing our lives, or changing the world, we have to let it go…
It can be really scary to step outside of the norm. Even if the norms you are used to conforming to are very unconventional, like mine have been. Much of what I have to share is about the techniques you can use to determine what is right for you, and to help yourself feel safe enough to do it, regardless of what others might think, and to plan ways of making sure that what you're putting your heart and energy into, is actually likely to work
There's a healing journey we each need to take, as we become ready, and it's a really difficult process, but also a very rewarding one. The process involves letting your guard down; to see your life and/or the world, for the ways in which it's currently really quite terrible, to let yourself see how wonderful it could be, and to come to terms emotionally with the difference. What naturally comes next is figuring out what you want to do about it, as well as how to do it in a way that is actually likely to work, and then implementing and adjusting as you go.
The change-making journey we need to go on is very similar. We let go of our preconceived notions around the ways we've been taught to change the world, and take an honest look at the downfalls of these methods, the ways they're ineffective or counter-productive. We open our minds to other possibilities and synthesise options that could actually align with our values and our goals. Potentially we might also need some support around the healing side of things in order to be able to enact these new plans which can be bigger and more controversial.

I would love to support you through any or all parts of this process of changing your life and/or changing the world. It's huge and scary and insanely important work and you deserve support through it.
I firmly believe that we should have been taught the building blocks of leading a liberated life way back in primary school. Instead we were negatively socialised, traumatised and oppressed to varying degrees. When we were eventually taught tools to help us with our emotional struggles, they were generally only half solutions that at least/perhaps stopped things from completely going to shit. And so we've each ended up with all kinds of problems, and semi-useful/semi-destructive coping mechanisms, and a general inability to just naturally live a fulfilling life.
Meanwhile the strategies most people are using to try to change the world don't get us the wins we want. Early on, activists and other change-makers don't tend to consider that most of what they're doing has been done for decades to little effect. Eventually they either burn out or come to terms with just continuing to do the good work, while hoping that it will all be worth it at some unknown point in the future when it's the right time in history.
I firmly believe that there's a reason things are this way. Our global culture and our economic and political systems are not designed for fulfilment, nor for allowing positive structural change. They are designed in such a way as to keep the rich, rich and getting richer. I don't mean that there is a conspiracy that has designed the system this way. I just mean that the people at the top have, throughout history, taken whatever action seemed strategic in order to secure their interests. And that has tipped the scales against us.
We've been socialised to be worker bees. The system doesn't care about our happiness, it only cares about productivity. Human fulfilment is catered to just enough to maximise productivity. But we're not robots, we have feelings and we don't like being worker bees. As a result we've taken our issues out on each other. This has been encouraged by the divide and conquer tactics of the ruling class who would prefer us to be fighting each other than fighting them. And so, as well as being poorly socialised, traumatised and oppressed by the structures of this society, we've also done this to each other.
None of this is ok and we can all do something about it. We deserve a world that is life-enriching, not life-depleting. We don't have to stay stuck. The 0.01% cannot stop us from living our lives to the absolute fullest that we can within this unfair system. Nor can they stop us from changing the system eventually. We just have to be deeply strategic about how we get there since the odds are stacked against us. Anything is possible.
I trust I can be helpful to you because I've been figuring this stuff out for myself for years. I've been obsessed with figuring out how to change the world for nearly two decades. I got obsessed with healing when I realised it was a missing piece in the world-changing puzzle. I've finally learnt the tools that have enabled me to live a life that I love, and to be able to work on changing the world in ways that are actually strategic. If you're interested, you can read more about my story on my about page.
I am available to share tools and alternative points of view in a dialogue-based process, and to hold space for your process to unfold. I hope you'll join me in learning how to overcome whatever issues are holding you back from a life of fulfilment and how to best change this fucked up system. I'm currently offering coaching and consulting for change-makers which you can find more information about below. I would love to support you, so please get in touch if you are interested.
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